tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10901468.post936719590651538315..comments2024-03-19T03:17:32.682-04:00Comments on The Panopticon: Only ConnectFranklinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03670441931649806878noreply@blogger.comBlogger50125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10901468.post-39053354018606010082007-06-16T21:36:00.000-04:002007-06-16T21:36:00.000-04:00But Franklin, you are so cute!But Franklin, you are so cute!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10901468.post-65331832653524880232007-06-08T13:41:00.000-04:002007-06-08T13:41:00.000-04:00Some of the best things in life come from Craigsli...Some of the best things in life come from Craigslist.<BR/><BR/>You may appreciate <A HREF="http://www.craigslist.org/about/best/sfo/326175577.html" REL="nofollow">this one</A>, compliments of the audience at the San Francisco ballet a few nights ago.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10901468.post-56128032563141656632007-06-07T15:23:00.000-04:002007-06-07T15:23:00.000-04:00Also! What's up with you being at Stitches Midwest...Also! What's up with you being at Stitches Midwest? Will we be able to pose for you there, or what? ; )The Sexy Knitterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09225256808793168064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10901468.post-1971104768199197532007-06-07T14:08:00.000-04:002007-06-07T14:08:00.000-04:00Please don't leave us hanging! Tell us if you have...Please don't leave us hanging! Tell us if you have seen this man or if he left a description of yourself so you can find him. Are you even interested? The story feels unfinished and enquiring minds want to know....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10901468.post-54269337313785535842007-06-07T12:35:00.000-04:002007-06-07T12:35:00.000-04:00However, my reaction to any indication of interest...<I>However, my reaction to any indication of interest from my fellow men is still unmasked suprise, followed immediately by incredulity.</I><BR/>This line resonated with me, because I have always been the same way. I blame school, though. People were always coming up to me and telling me someone had a crush on me, when in fact, no one had a crush on me, because I was the biggest geek in my class. (Or, if anyone did, they certainly would never own up to it.) <BR/><BR/>I've always secretly hoped that on one of those rare occasions when I check out a missed connection listing, someone will describe me. I guess it's just nice to be noticed, even if you have no interest in meeting someone.Marlenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14450713450633845806noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10901468.post-92186462677976918162007-06-07T11:01:00.000-04:002007-06-07T11:01:00.000-04:00I could not resist... I went to see what was poste...I could not resist... I went to see what was posted in M4W. The first posting, titled "Guilt" said this:<BR/><BR/>"we are just ape covers for energy fields<BR/><BR/>the energy vibe doesn't care about who slept with who<BR/><BR/>only your ego is worried about who did what when with whom"<BR/><BR/>I'm not at all sure what to make of that.<BR/><BR/>Meanwhile, I think we should get you a new mirror. Your current mirror is obviously lying. As others have said before -- you are hot, foxy, cute, and otherwise generally attractive. And you are also delightful to be around. Perhaps a new mirror will let you see that too. (but not too much, lest you morph into one of those dreadful "men' who KNOW they're totally hot, and thus become wholly UNPLEASANT to be around.)Helenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02468564896579447798noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10901468.post-31509446222788389082007-06-07T10:48:00.000-04:002007-06-07T10:48:00.000-04:00"I bet you straight types get up to some freaky st..."I bet you straight types get up to some freaky stuff. I've heard rumors." This needed to come with a warning. Now I have to clean spewed Dr. Pepper off my screen.Tommehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18440414362879424169noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10901468.post-41740778267601834432007-06-07T10:40:00.000-04:002007-06-07T10:40:00.000-04:00If it's true that there's another goateed guy hang...If it's true that there's another goateed guy hanging out knitting at the Davis el station...hmmm...if I were you, I'd go down there to see what I could see :-)<BR/><BR/>I just turned 40, Franklin, and I've only just started being able to see whatever other people see when they say I'm pretty. Oddly, everyone else but my partner thinks I look younger and compliments me on it, and my partner also comments on body parts that are disproportionate to the rest of me, like my large shoulders and my square feet. This doesn't exactly help with seeing beauty in myself. So when he tells other people I'm beautiful, I'm surprised.<BR/><BR/>(He does tell me I'm beautiful, but I rarely believe him. If he'd shut up about the shoulders and stop telling me I look 42, I might change my mind.) <BR/><BR/>But I've been too long the tiny, shy, dorky kid. The training doesn't fade fast, and I totally understand your aversion to mirrors. <BR/><BR/>That said, sugar, you're beautiful.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10901468.post-41275069904630564662007-06-07T09:45:00.000-04:002007-06-07T09:45:00.000-04:00Oh, how romantic, to be someone's missed connectio...Oh, how romantic, to be someone's missed connection! Dude, you're my hero.Kara Lewishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04977752015195049857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10901468.post-33177461369288165882007-06-07T09:41:00.000-04:002007-06-07T09:41:00.000-04:00I once read an interview with Isabella Rossellini ...I once read an interview with Isabella Rossellini where she referred to having a 'short, fat day', and I thought, well, maybe I look like Isabella Rossellini, because if she feels short and fat too, how would I know? I know of course that I don't look like her - I'm blonde after all - but I found it really liberating because I realised that so much of this stuff comes from inside ourselves and has very little to do with how we actually look. <BR/><BR/>Maybe Isabella has days when she feels short and bald too. Not that that's a bad thing, as you've just discovered from all these comments.Helenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12045029232081633077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10901468.post-82966700803509525582007-06-07T02:49:00.000-04:002007-06-07T02:49:00.000-04:00You would LOVE this project. Someone replies to t...You would LOVE this project. Someone replies to these Crag's List ads with another add that simply says, "That's my wife, asshole," and then posts the further replies on his blog.<BR/><BR/>Hard to explain, hilariously evil.<BR/><BR/>http://thatsmygirlasshole.blogspot.com/Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03932975112078606231noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10901468.post-8262867088969339522007-06-07T01:00:00.000-04:002007-06-07T01:00:00.000-04:00I'll add my voice to those clamoring that Franklin...I'll add my voice to those clamoring that Franklin is a Hottie. AND smart, self-aware, funny, Buddhist, and a knitter . . . If I weren't married and you weren't gay and we didn't live 2000 miles apart, watch out!<BR/><BR/>So, why no connection on the Red Line guy? Given that it does sound like he knows where to find you, maybe he's just putting out feelers, too shy to make a bolder move. (And maybe he doesn't know if you're gay and/or single.)IrreverendAmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13808870566842465928noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10901468.post-59064235630822434122007-06-06T22:58:00.000-04:002007-06-06T22:58:00.000-04:00I *SWEAR.* If you come to the Bay Area with your ...I *SWEAR.* If you come to the Bay Area with your camera for your project, we will not subject you to body image issues. We will still feel them, of course. But we will not subject you to them. Also, we will take you to fun bars with cute men and good food. Not that we're trying to bribe you or anything. Because, of course, that would be wrong.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10901468.post-66242203020945773722007-06-06T20:58:00.000-04:002007-06-06T20:58:00.000-04:00I love reading the "Missed Connection" personal ad...I love reading the "Missed Connection" personal ads. My all-time favorite was one that had a very specific description of a guy in a bar (time, date, clothing) and then said "I wasn't actually there but my friend thought you'd be perfect for me."Grumpyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14905226822738634392noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10901468.post-56253923238045959222007-06-06T20:32:00.001-04:002007-06-06T20:32:00.001-04:00How strange that he felt unable to speak to you. K...How strange that he felt unable to speak to you. Knitting really seems to break the ice, usually.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10901468.post-12387496357180095392007-06-06T20:32:00.000-04:002007-06-06T20:32:00.000-04:00I am a soon to be 50 year old woman who has never ...I am a soon to be 50 year old woman who has never thought of myself as pretty. My husband of 25+ years recently asked me to do a 1940's style pinup photo (I'll never ask for another thing again) because he thinks I am beautiful. I wish I could see myself through his eyes.Donna Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07877384848664758611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10901468.post-57620815894548814222007-06-06T20:22:00.000-04:002007-06-06T20:22:00.000-04:00If I was a guy and gay, I would totally hit on you...If I was a guy and gay, I would totally hit on you...just for your sharp pointy needles ;). Missed connections? I'm usually the person that plops herself down in the other person's lap and says Hi!knitting labrathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00740546244571515338noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10901468.post-67620613312287151542007-06-06T20:19:00.000-04:002007-06-06T20:19:00.000-04:00Brenda, if he looks like he plays for the same tea...Brenda, if he looks like he plays for the same team, give hin Franklin's URL. <BR/><BR/>If he sees you "regularly" why not be bold and ask what you are knitting? Or wink? Are you in the morning "quiet car?" What's with that?<BR/><BR/>And Patrick probably lives down the street with Tom and their daschsie.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10901468.post-45418173717910686052007-06-06T19:55:00.000-04:002007-06-06T19:55:00.000-04:00Well, as a straight woman, I think you're very att...Well, as a straight woman, I think you're very attractive, but I know what you mean. For years I was very overweight, and my mother's words ("you would be so pretty *if only* you lost weight") had seared themselves into my brain. She may as well have just told me I was ugly the way I was. So I carefully avoided mirrors, especially full length ones. I actually had no idea what size I was since I never looked at myself. When I see photos of myself from that era (rare, because I also avoided cameras), it's always a bit of a shock. It's like my body was a stranger to me.<BR/><BR/>Now that I'm thinner (though still not thin), I'm able to look in the mirror, and I'm mostly ok with what I see, though not entirely. But it's my body, and it works, and it'll do. The odd thing is, I don't always have an accurate idea of my size. Sometimes I see another woman, and I honestly have no idea if she's the same size I am, or larger, or smaller. My body seems to still be a stranger.<BR/><BR/>I hope all of these comments have helped you realize that other people do see you as attractive. It's hard in our culture where there's one defined look of beauty for men and one defined look of beauty for women, and anyone who deviates from it is supposedly unattractive. What bullshit.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10901468.post-23176285929112609502007-06-06T18:57:00.000-04:002007-06-06T18:57:00.000-04:00Dag. My crush on you is so intense that all my co-...Dag. My crush on you is so intense that all my co-workers are so used to me talking about you, if I miss a day or two, they ask how you are. It's the old cliche - "He's so cute (and kind and sweet and intelligent and Buddhist, and he KNITS, and READS, and he doesn't drink), too bad he's gay." <BR/><BR/>When I first moved to New York in the mid-80's, the Voice had all the missed connections on the back page, mixed in with personals and other oddball ads. Only many were in code! I, of course, thought they were all addressed to me, and wasted many hours drinking coffee with my few friends, trying to decipher them. I hate to talk about the good old days, but the craigslist ads pale in comparison. <BR/>In the absence of anything else, they are amusing, though.<BR/><BR/>rosesmamaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10901468.post-87130321663631264222007-06-06T17:53:00.000-04:002007-06-06T17:53:00.000-04:00today i told my son he could block the beret i sen...today i told my son he could block the beret i sent him on a dinner plate, he said all the plates in his aunt's house are square. sounds like a Franklin Cartoon. we giggled...LOL... <BR/>i'm glad you got past the part where you didn't like to look at yourself. it takes some doing. wanna tell us how you did it?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10901468.post-27789787828822924732007-06-06T17:42:00.000-04:002007-06-06T17:42:00.000-04:00Answer the ad - you never know.Answer the ad - you never know.debsnmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17023150694076405052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10901468.post-27023720840091401032007-06-06T17:20:00.000-04:002007-06-06T17:20:00.000-04:00Sarah's phrase "hot gay knitter on the Red Line" s...Sarah's phrase "hot gay knitter on the Red Line" sounds like a perfect title for an alt.country song. (I'm not a country fan, but some alt.country funky rock-esque folk stuff can be fun.) It scans beautifully.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10901468.post-26356636271064729882007-06-06T17:15:00.000-04:002007-06-06T17:15:00.000-04:00Oooo, do you always take the same train car in the...Oooo, do you always take the same train car in the morning? I picture your Missed Connection running down the platform desperately looking for the car you're sitting in. Have fun!sweetfigshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14278551837920613707noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10901468.post-77358066374423656912007-06-06T17:00:00.001-04:002007-06-06T17:00:00.001-04:00In one of the French daily newspapers (Liberation)...In one of the French daily newspapers (Liberation) there is a special section, called transports amoureux (if i remember rightly) especially so that people can contact that person they saw on the train, metro, in that traffic jam.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com